I like clothes and shoes and pretty adornments of all types. I used to hit every sale rack in every single store I went into, hunting for a deal, looking for something cute that I never knew I needed. After I turned 30, I looked at a wardrobe full of “stuff” vs. curated pieces and thought that it was time that I started being more selective about the things that I purchased. I still enjoy the hunt for the bargain, but now I try to make sure it’s an item that I would either 1 – be willing to pay full price on if I had the resources, 2 – something I don’t already have, 3 – something I could honestly see myself wearing. It’s made my closet feel more special, if less full. Now I am trying to take things a step further and see if I can stretch myself a little more and try to minimize the amount of waste my consumerism is generating. One of the things I wanted to do in 2020 was decrease the amount of “fast fashion” I purchased; with reputable second hand and consignment shops popping up all over the internet I wanted to see how much a woman who falls into the plus size category could utilize these options and participate in the mantra of “reduce, reuse, recycle”. My first foray into this world was Poshmark. Of all the sites I visited, they seemed to be the easiest to navigate and carried a lot of brands I was already familiar with. After much searching, waiting, and bargaining (aka months of keeping an eye on various items) I curated what I am calling my very first Poshmark haul. I started with shoes -I wear between a 10 or an 11 depending on the shoe-, and it felt quite luxurious to find so many options with a few simple clicks.
Wooden Stacked Heels $18: These heels were my very first purchase from Poshmark. I used to wear heels as much as every other type of footwear, but somewhere along the way I started to feel self conscious. I’m 5’10”, and with heels of any substantial height, I usually tower over most people. I had a boss that used to like to make fun of me, probably because the heels made me taller than he was, but between his comments and a few of clients I was meeting with greeting me with a variation of “Jesus, how tall are you?”, I just stopped wearing them. My therapist pointed out that this was absolute bullshit so I’ve been working my way back into taller kicks.
Kenneth Cole Lania Open Toe Booties $28 – I stalked a similar pair on ALTO for months, but they never had my size, in the color I wanted, at the price I wanted, so I thought I was out of luck. Then I found these, and they are even better than the ones I lost out on.
Torrid Gold Brocade Ankle Booties $14: These were a late night add to my “like” list, and I wasn’t sure about them. I would add them, remove them, add them back… far more hand wringing than the situation warranted. Then the seller offered me the discounted price and reduced shipping, and I just did it. They are surprisingly comfortable, and I regret nothing.
Bamboo Brocade Sneakers $18 – Of all the shoes I ordered, these were the only ones that didn’t really fit. The bad thing about the second hand sites is that returns aren’t always possible, but they’re still beautiful and I will find them a good home.
Mossimo Supply Co Satin Sneakers $8 – I actually looked at these when they were at Target originally, but they never stocked my size. I was so pleased when I found these new and at a very reasonable price.
Of all the shoes I’ve ordered, I was most excited to get my hands on these. I bought a pair years ago when they were on store shelves. I believe I even paid full price for them. I wore those bad boys until they literally fell apart, then I glued them back together and wore them some more. I did this multiple times until the feathers and one of the tassels started to come off and no amount of E6000 could hold them together. I thought I’d never find anything like them again. THEN I happen to find a never worn, in the box pair IN MY SIZE! They even had the cardboard inserts still in the shoes. I was FLOORED. I haven’t been able to bring myself to wear them yet. I put them on the top of my “special shoes” rack, and I touch them reverently whenever I am in my closet.